Bridges Newsletter: November 2008

Overcoming Old Patterns

By Richard W. Cronen & Angela C. Gonzalez

Studies show that only 1 in 9 people who have undergone coronary bypass surgery change their behavior in any significant way that will prevent a re-occurrence.  Why?

We are all, to some degree, resistant to change.  Resistance is natural.  Over the course of time we establish certain patterns of thinking and behaving.  These experiences establish sub-conscious expectations about how things should be.  When our experiences match our expectations we feel comfortable.  When they do not, we feel discomfort, which in turn, creates resistance.

It takes a certain degree of tension, the "burning platform", to prompt us to take action in the first place.  We seek change in order to relieve the tension.  If that tension is eliminated we have achieved success; but, the longer it takes to realize the benefits of the change - tension increases and resistance is amplified.  We even find rational reasons why the change was not a good idea in the first place.  Resistance, therefore, is natural.  It is an attempt to relieve stress and maintain equilibrium - even if it is not good for you.

Whether you are an individual or an organization, the same cycle applies.  But change is good, it is an important ingredient in renewal and innovation.  So, how do you make it less painful and increase the chances for success?   

1. Be Inclusive: In organizations, make sure that the people involved in and affected by the change are involved. Incorporate principles of self-organization. As an individual, involve others by sharing your goals and your progress.
   
   
2. Imprint: When you begin the change process, envision what it will be like when it is accomplished. Imprint this vision by imaging how it feels, tastes, smells etc. and hold that vision. The more senses that are involved, the more real the achievement becomes.
   
   
3. Attitude of Gratitude: Be grateful for and celebrate each success. Gratitude keeps the mind focused on the future - what you are moving towards. Gratitude stimulates creative energies that keep your mind focused on possibilities.

Remember, your attitude is the control center of your life.